Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Sun salutations
Something that I wanted to post as my facebook status tonight was the hilarity of listening to Nathan doing yoga with me tonight. Granted I was not perfect, its been awhile since I did some yoga, it was hilarious to listen to Nathan as he was moving between the different poses. I decided not to post this as my facebook status as I have heard nothing but crap from some people since Nathan came back about how their husbands are not back. Today I said one thing about Nathan and I was told that I was rubbing it in her face that Nathan was home. FYI I wasn't even talking to the person, I was talking to someone next to her. And again as I said the other day Nathan has been gone a lot longer, and her husband is coming back this next week. So, my rant today is allow others to not feel guilty about their husbands being home, don't make them feel bad and let them bathe in the excitement of being reunited. So I did not make this my status as I was afraid that again I would end up feeling like shit when I should be happy.
Sunday, February 5, 2012
Respect at ceremonies...
So my target of this post is homecoming ceremonies and the respect that should be presented at them. But really it comes down to respect at any ceremony. So here is my rant:
1. If you don't get there early to get a good seat don't expect others to move around so you can have the seat that you so desperately want. We all want that seat, which is why we showed up early and reserved the seat. Also, don't try to move my stuff so that you can take my seat. NOT COOL. I will call you out on it, and you will be the one looking like a fool.
On the same note, I arrived early to have a front seat. That does not mean that if you show up late that you can come stand in front of me. Go stand with everyone else that was late.
2. When the speaker is talking don't start yelling for your loved one so that they can find you in the stands. We all want to find our loved ones, but please show respect for those who are trying to listen to the speaker. Plus its just flat out rude and disrespectful to interrupt the speaker like that.
3. While I know that there is no dress code for a homecoming ceremony please dress respectfully. Jeans and a t-shirt are not respectful. Jeans and a nice shirt are fine. Dresses don't need to be ball gowns, but also don't pull out the slutty, tramp dresses. We all know that you can't wait to get home, but you don't have to show everyone every little inch of your body. These guys have been gone a long time, protecting your freedom and working hard to provide a better life for you; please show them the respect that they deserve.
4. We all have signs that we want to hold up to show our loved one. Please keep it to a practical size, if multiple members of your family are holding it, fine. But if you are trying to stretch it out in front of a bunch of people so it blocks other families, again not cool.
5. I brought balloons as well, but I tried to keep my balloons under control; I held them out of people's faces, out of pictures, and it was only 2, not a giant bouquet that I would expect at a county fair that is more of a distraction than a festive marker for this joyous occasion.
6. How my loved one and I choose to celebrate the homecoming is our decision. Just because you do not agree you do not need to make me feel like shit because of it. Keep your opinion to yourself!
7. We have all had to wait a long time for our loved ones to come home. I understand that not everyone is home yet, and I am sorry. I too have had to waited through watching other loved ones come back and not able to see my husband, I have felt the same jealousy. You do not need to make me feel like shit because your loved one is not home yet. Oh and FYI for those of you who did make me feel like shit for all but one of you my husband left way before yours. And for that one your husband left only the day before mine and yours will be home very, very soon, not that big of a difference. Get over yourselves, we are all in this together. It is not possible for them to all come in on the same day, so please let me celebrate my day without making me feel guilty.
While this has been a negative post, please don't get me wrong. I am overjoyed that my husband is home and would not have missed the welcome home ceremony for anything in the world. I just needed to share my mind.
1. If you don't get there early to get a good seat don't expect others to move around so you can have the seat that you so desperately want. We all want that seat, which is why we showed up early and reserved the seat. Also, don't try to move my stuff so that you can take my seat. NOT COOL. I will call you out on it, and you will be the one looking like a fool.
On the same note, I arrived early to have a front seat. That does not mean that if you show up late that you can come stand in front of me. Go stand with everyone else that was late.
2. When the speaker is talking don't start yelling for your loved one so that they can find you in the stands. We all want to find our loved ones, but please show respect for those who are trying to listen to the speaker. Plus its just flat out rude and disrespectful to interrupt the speaker like that.
3. While I know that there is no dress code for a homecoming ceremony please dress respectfully. Jeans and a t-shirt are not respectful. Jeans and a nice shirt are fine. Dresses don't need to be ball gowns, but also don't pull out the slutty, tramp dresses. We all know that you can't wait to get home, but you don't have to show everyone every little inch of your body. These guys have been gone a long time, protecting your freedom and working hard to provide a better life for you; please show them the respect that they deserve.
4. We all have signs that we want to hold up to show our loved one. Please keep it to a practical size, if multiple members of your family are holding it, fine. But if you are trying to stretch it out in front of a bunch of people so it blocks other families, again not cool.
5. I brought balloons as well, but I tried to keep my balloons under control; I held them out of people's faces, out of pictures, and it was only 2, not a giant bouquet that I would expect at a county fair that is more of a distraction than a festive marker for this joyous occasion.
6. How my loved one and I choose to celebrate the homecoming is our decision. Just because you do not agree you do not need to make me feel like shit because of it. Keep your opinion to yourself!
7. We have all had to wait a long time for our loved ones to come home. I understand that not everyone is home yet, and I am sorry. I too have had to waited through watching other loved ones come back and not able to see my husband, I have felt the same jealousy. You do not need to make me feel like shit because your loved one is not home yet. Oh and FYI for those of you who did make me feel like shit for all but one of you my husband left way before yours. And for that one your husband left only the day before mine and yours will be home very, very soon, not that big of a difference. Get over yourselves, we are all in this together. It is not possible for them to all come in on the same day, so please let me celebrate my day without making me feel guilty.
Sunday, January 29, 2012
Reintegration
As something I have discovered a word that military families come to cringe at just as much as the word deployment is reintegration. This is the period immediately after deployment that everyone involved has to learn how to act as a family unit again. Our reintegration period isn't even here and already I have mixed emotions about it. Don't get me wrong, I am very excited for Nathan to come back. What am I worried about you ask? Learning how to live together as a couple in which both of us have full-time jobs. Up until this point in our marriage we have been separated any time we have both had full-time jobs. When we were first married I was actually working 2 jobs, but Nathan was sent to Missouri a matter of a few days after we were married. Start our first separation while we both worked full-time. Come the end of Nathan's school in Missouri, I quit my jobs to follow him to Germany. I immediately started looking for work but didn't one until right after Nathan left for this deployment. So while I have been working at this job now for awhile this will be the first time that we live under the same roof and both work. Begin just one of my worries for when he comes back.
Hopefully Nathan will be here soon, and then we can begin this wild adventure called reintegration!
Hopefully Nathan will be here soon, and then we can begin this wild adventure called reintegration!
Monday, January 23, 2012
Where does time go?
WOW!!! Where the heck does time go? I kept thinking that it had only been about a month since my last post, until I signed in and saw that it has been about 2 months! My bad.
Can you believe that it has been almost a year since Nathan left? As I start prep my house for his homecoming I am reflecting on this past year. At times it seems like it has dragged on forever and at other times it has flown by. I didn't travel as much as I had originally planned this past year, but I did start my job and have been trying to save up all the leave time I can for when he comes home.
We will have more travel pics as soon as Nathan comes home, I promise. We already have a couple of exciting trips set up. I cannot wait!
Can you believe that it has been almost a year since Nathan left? As I start prep my house for his homecoming I am reflecting on this past year. At times it seems like it has dragged on forever and at other times it has flown by. I didn't travel as much as I had originally planned this past year, but I did start my job and have been trying to save up all the leave time I can for when he comes home.
We will have more travel pics as soon as Nathan comes home, I promise. We already have a couple of exciting trips set up. I cannot wait!
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